The straightforward answer is that you are disagreeable, vile, arrogant, etc. You either think too highly of yourself, or too lowly of others.
But what if you are a generally nice person? This post is dedicated to people who have friendships with high turnover rates.
High turnover rates could mean any of the following:
1. Easily bored - you don't like spending too much effort on knowing a person. You like to meet new people. The more, the merrier.
2. In the wrong world - the people around you seem to be doing something you are not interested in. There's nothing wrong with varied interest; look around at the right places.
eg. I used to talk (and still do) about what I learn in class. Unfortunately, the people in my class were not interested in talking about such serious matters unless circumstances necessitate it. Of course, I tried to talk like them, but I do feel really happy when I finally find a person who is comfortable discussing such matters over coffee.
3. Something very wrong - perhaps you think you are wonderful, but there are certain aspects of you that people could not see eye to eye with. Approach a close friend to verify that.
4. Loner - Self-professed loners would not be reading this. Those who feel that hanging out with friends means meeting the social norm, but secretly love to have their own space, will feel inadequate.
5. No money - Maintenance of friends require finances. Eating out, movies, travelling or just doing anything requires money. It's ok.
6. No time - While some cannot spare the money, some cannot spare the time. In a day and age where all of us work non-stop, where do we find time to catch up? Especially if the person never meant anything to you, nor you to him/her. Who would sacrifice and pay the opportunity cost to make one new friend?
7. Shyness - This is often hard to get over. Shyness is a reluctance to participate for fear of societal judgment. If you can't say, emails are good.
8. You're not worth the time - While point 3 is about you not knowing how to carry yourself, this point is about how you are just fluff and bluff. Find something you can offer to people - care, concern, listening ear etc.
But what if you are a generally nice person? This post is dedicated to people who have friendships with high turnover rates.
High turnover rates could mean any of the following:
1. Easily bored - you don't like spending too much effort on knowing a person. You like to meet new people. The more, the merrier.
2. In the wrong world - the people around you seem to be doing something you are not interested in. There's nothing wrong with varied interest; look around at the right places.
eg. I used to talk (and still do) about what I learn in class. Unfortunately, the people in my class were not interested in talking about such serious matters unless circumstances necessitate it. Of course, I tried to talk like them, but I do feel really happy when I finally find a person who is comfortable discussing such matters over coffee.
3. Something very wrong - perhaps you think you are wonderful, but there are certain aspects of you that people could not see eye to eye with. Approach a close friend to verify that.
4. Loner - Self-professed loners would not be reading this. Those who feel that hanging out with friends means meeting the social norm, but secretly love to have their own space, will feel inadequate.
5. No money - Maintenance of friends require finances. Eating out, movies, travelling or just doing anything requires money. It's ok.
6. No time - While some cannot spare the money, some cannot spare the time. In a day and age where all of us work non-stop, where do we find time to catch up? Especially if the person never meant anything to you, nor you to him/her. Who would sacrifice and pay the opportunity cost to make one new friend?
7. Shyness - This is often hard to get over. Shyness is a reluctance to participate for fear of societal judgment. If you can't say, emails are good.
8. You're not worth the time - While point 3 is about you not knowing how to carry yourself, this point is about how you are just fluff and bluff. Find something you can offer to people - care, concern, listening ear etc.
